A CLOSER LOOK--eye contact: part four

A simple exercise, very non threatening, is to look at an object that is a few feet away. Just look at it for ten seconds or so.

Then, look at a small part of that object, and try to find the details--the lines, the swirls, the curves, the indentations, the imperfections.

Then focus on another part of the object, and do the same.

See, when we look at something, we seldom really really look at it--we glance, but seldom focus; we isolate, but hardly explore.

So, first, we need to train our eyes to look, really and richly and thoroughly look--at the smallest of surfaces.

Then, look at a friend's eyes. 

Sure, at first, just latch on to his/her eyes. Then look deeply--try to get at the exact color, try to see what the pupils are doing; look or imperfections, and so on.

A CLOSER LOOK  helps to train your eyes to focus, and it also is a game that you can "play" while you are making eye contact during speeches. And this will help to dissipate nervous eye movement.

More to come...