EYE CONTACT: THE EYES HAVE IT--part two

One of my favorite poems is TS Eliot's "The Love Song Of J. Alfred Prufrock." In it, a put-upon man, fearful of failure and of the world's opinion of him, feels that he has known the eyes already, the "eyes that fix you in a formulated phrase."

Indeed, eyes can pin you to a wall, and I propose that, as a speaker, that is what you want to do to individual members of your audiences: pin them--well, without the menacing or the pain:).

When you look onto another's eyes, and hold that gaze, you show strength, you show concern. You rivet the receiver to his/her chair, and by doing so you also hold mesmerized every single person in the room.

By focusing your eye energy on one person for the length of a phrase or sentence, you enthrall everyone.

It's just how it works; trust in this fact.

In the next few posts, will explore the techniques to sharpen your eye-contact!